Coaching for Women Business Owners can be different than for Men. There is a Feminine Way to Success that is qualitatively unique and yet its something that most business coaches and even most women have no awareness of.
The other night I attended a talk by a very dynamic, skilled and successful coach. His talk was wonderful! He focused on engaging the audience around the topics of stories, excuses and an overall vision for life and business success. I found myself nodding through the majority of his presentation, as those same topics also infuse the coaching I provide to my clients, my writing and my speeches.
The audience was a local women owned business group. They all appeared to be helped and stimulated by the presentation. It clearly opened up some new ways of thinking for some and was even more enlightening for others. The speaker was male. The audience was female. From my perspective as a female business owner and coach, there was a missing piece in the presentation.
I’m not writing to in way criticize the speaker. In fact I thought he was really awesome. I have no idea if in his deeper work with female clients he attends to the uniquely feminine process and journey related to business success. This was only one hour and I know he can end spending multiples more with his clients.
I’m writing instead to ponder the feminine way to success in business. You see, I’ve had three successful business in my career and until recently I disregarded the feminine. I was strong and smart and hard driving. I put on my left brained hat and went to work! I brought logic and intellect, commitment and power to my work. I succeeded financially and developed a fine reputation within my field for each of my endeavors
“What could be wrong with all that?”, you might be asking.
My answer is, in my perception of how to build business I grasped onto the aspects that we usually see – the aspects that are very masculine. In that process I neglected the power of the feminine and a very crucial part of myself. That neglect caused me stress, burnout, overwhelm and in the end it probably cost me business too.
We women business owners are blessed to have another side. We have strong intuition. We have natural rhythms which give us grace and power. We have a brain that listens and understands communication in a different way than men’s brains. We are tuned into the ebb and flow of nature and cycles in a manner that can imbue our business with a balance and a gentle firm power that supports financial success and so much more.
When women do business like men, they can lose a part of themselves in the process. The way men to do business is right for them. Excellent! But as women business owners, we can and should pull into our vision and actions the capable and impressive way we have of being in the world that is uniquely feminine. We must trust it and honor it. We must be grounded and healthy, well nourished and not tired. We must trust our daily rhythms for sleep and our monthly rhythms for times to create and times to turn inward. We must tune into the messages we receive from our bodies and our intuition.
In the early days of “women’s lib” women were chastised for being all of that. The big joke was that a woman could never be President or a CEO, for what would happen when they had PMS or cramps or fell deeply in love with their newborn baby?!!
We now know that women can run companies and countries with no more difficulty than men. In fact I would propose that the world today requires more women in power positions because the masculine dominated culture has brought us to a point of crisis in all aspects of humanity.
But I digress.
From this article I want women business owners to realize that embracing the mighty feminine manner of doing business and honoring their unique way of walking in the world, will be bring financial success and grace and balance and joy.
I’d love to continue this conversation with you, privately or in the comments below!