When Having It All is Not Enough

Overachieving-Affluent and Unhappy. When Having It All is Not Enough

These are two sad stories (with a twist ending)

deborah-tutnauer-coachingOnce upon a time there was a man.   Since childhood he was taught to always be the best in everything. He got top grades and sporting accolades. After college he was recruited by a prestigious company. They funded his MBA and he rose through the ranks to become a principle player complete with large salary, bonuses, profit sharing and a corner office. He had a beautiful wife,  three cute children and a dog. They summered at the beach and skied during Winter vacations.  At 52 he found it harder and harder to show up on time at the office. Weekend mornings would find him laying in bed staring out the window. He couldn’t quite recall his childhood and wondered if it was a happy one, as he listened to his children laughing in the yard. He worried about his aging parents and envied what appeared to be their joyful retirement life until they started slowing down. He was at the peak of his career . His family was healthy and content. Yet as his lay there on those weekend mornings, for the life of him he could not figure out why it all felt so gray. Something was not right.

A woman I know is a partner in a law firm. Her husband works a corporate job too, yet has much more time than her to be home with their two young daughters. She broke through the glass ceiling when she was in her late thirties, continuing the frenetic pace at the law firm even while pregnant. She loved the six weeks she stayed at home after the birth of each child, yet knew all her efforts would be for naught if she took her foot off the gas and didn’t go back.  At 45, her family is living the life. The girls attend a cutting edge private school, they spend weekends on their boat at the lake (unless she is in the office – then they go without her). She is not sure why she finds herself sobbing in the shower some evenings, unable to catch her breathe. She’s done what she set out to do and her life is perfect. Yet as she sobs she knows something is missing. She knows there is something not right and she can’t understand what that could be.

Overachieving-Affluent and Unhappy.

When Having It All is Not Enough

Welcome to the world of the Overachieving-Affluent and Unhappy. It’s a horrible experience to feel like you’ve done it all right and achieved the pinnacle of success, yet feel an angst inside that can be heart-wrenching at times. You question yourself because what could possibly be missing?  You wonder what it all means – what the point is – what your legacy will really be for your family and community.

When I’ve worked with people like you -“ Overachieving – Affluent – Unhappy” – a common theme is lack of meaning. There’s a huge question mark in the area of purpose and passion. You’ve achieved greatness in your career, yet you are struggling to understand why it feels so empty. Many would call it a mid-life crisis, or a touch of depression, when in fact these descriptions are simplistic and dismissive. What is often occurring is a level of existential angst that is both debilitating and motivating if you allow it to be. The key is to engage it, not deny.

Personal Growth Coaching for Corporate Achievers is an experience of diving into the essence of you. It’s a rediscovery of your core values and what makes you tick. Personal Growth Coaching for affluent business people is designed to explore and then release your sadness and to fill the emptiness with meaning. When people feel as you do, they tend to see the choices as “all or nothing”. That type of thinking creates a massive feeling of being stuck in the present situation forever or petrifying fear of walking away from it completely. It is hard to see that there are multitudes of options between these two poles that are neither of those extreme choices.

deborah-tutnauer-coachingWhen you embark on personal growth coaching for corporate achievers you will begin to feel lighter and less overwhelmed. You’ll experience the wonder of discovering, maybe for the first time, who you really are at a core level and how to bring meaning into your day to day career. You’ll define – really define – what’s truly important and create a framework that encompasses your life in manner that allows for peace and joy.

For some, this process may end in changing jobs. For others it might be the first steps leading to an entrepreneurial venture. It could be an exercise that ends up allowing you to continue in your present position with a deeper connection to the meaning of the work, and more balance in life overall. Regardless of the outcome, the experience of Personal Growth Coaching for affluent business people will create shift for you and will move you through and out of the sadness, the questioning, the wondering about why you have it all and it’s not enough.

Does this sound like something that would help you? Apply now for a complimentary consultation.



Deborah Tutnauer

Entrepreneur Business Success Coach at Deborah Tutnauer, LLC
Inspiring change in people for over 25 years, Deborah Tutnauer, MEd, MSWdigs deep to help authentic entrepreneurs move away from the stories that no longer serve them while clarifying and solidifying those that really do! Deborah helps frustrated entrepreneurs get exquisitely clear about meaning, purpose and expertise, then facilitates the creation of a financially sustainable and joyfully structured framework in which business and business people thrive.

Coaching both privately and in groups, Deborah is also a speaker, author, event leader and consultant. Creator of the Foundation and Framework Intensive, Question Master and Leader of the Entrepreneur Business Success Club, Deborah has been called an “Architect of Magical Business and Soul Structure”by her clients because she has a powerful ability to perform alchemy, changing passions and dreams into money and time by design.

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