…I can be grumpy and I have a rare but biting temper.
We all have lessons in life
that keep rearing their heads
when we least expect them.
We learn them and then we learn
them again. I believe that some
of our challenges appear over
and over again because they
are connected to the deepest
karma (curriculum) that we
arrived this time around to
overcome.
That is why we can feel confidently
successful in breaking through
a behavior pattern or emotional
trigger, and then find ourselves
embroiled in a similar situation
months or even years down the road.
I have learned many times that a big
trigger for me is respect (or my perception
of lack of respect) for my time,
energy and depth of caring for my clients
and my friends. I put a great deal of
forethought and consciousness into
my relationships and interactions.
When it appears to me that others
don’t honor that, my trigger goes off.
I’ve also learned that when it does, I MUST
sit with my emotions and not react.
How many times have I experienced this?
Ha!!!
Obviously not enough to learn to hold
my tongue (or my typing finger)
Every Single Time – Yet.
I keep practicing.
I am human, just like you. I can see
the patterns in my own life and help
you see them in yours. I still make
mistakes and so will you.
Over and
over again.
Each time I hope that we all learn just
a little bit more about ourselves, our soft
spots and the power of sitting still
and letting emotions wash over and
through us before making a decision
about how to react and what to say.
I’ve learned over the years that my
danger time is when I’m tired and
already a bit grumpy. Trigger me then
and you might see a side that I’m
not proud of.
So I watch for that and try and prepare.
Yet again I believe that our souls
are working at a completely different
level than the day to day content
we experience in real time. Our
triggers are inexplicably linked to
the very core of what we must learn
in order to complete our goals in this lifetime.
My Soul Contract has great power in
it, and a number of intense challenges.
I am honored to have been born
into a contract that will enable me
to positively impact the lives of many.
I also carry the burden of my karma
as we all do.
The lesson today is to be gentle with
yourself as you are a student of life
for it’s entirety.
When you make a mistake,
sincerely apologize and accept your role
in the miscommunication.
Take the time
to explore your triggers and to learn
from your reactivity.
Sit quietly with
your emotions as you learn to do in
Create space to forgive
your own bumbling escapades, and the
errors of others as well.
Entrepreneur Business Success Coach at Deborah Tutnauer, LLC
Inspiring change in people for over 25 years, Deborah Tutnauer, MEd, MSWdigs deep to help authentic entrepreneurs move away from the stories that no longer serve them while clarifying and solidifying those that really do! Deborah helps frustrated entrepreneurs get exquisitely clear about meaning, purpose and expertise, then facilitates the creation of a financially sustainable and joyfully structured framework in which business and business people thrive.
Coaching both privately and in groups, Deborah is also a speaker, author, event leader and consultant. Creator of the Foundation and Framework Intensive, Question Master and Leader of the Entrepreneur Business Success Club, Deborah has been called an “Architect of Magical Business and Soul Structure”by her clients because she has a powerful ability to perform alchemy, changing passions and dreams into money and time by design.
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Sunday is my older brother’s birthday and I found I haven’t forgiven him. I felt like what I’m doing is tantamount to printing a picture of him and burning it; that I’m afraid I’ll feel guilty when he dies and blame myself. I haven’t spoken to him since I discovered what he’d done. It’s been years. I sent him an email today. I wrote, “It is our mother’s birthday today. I know what you did. You needn’t explain. I forgive you. I love you. And I pray that I will forgive you again, when a thought of you arises.”
Thank you for sharing this Michael. It is poignant and powerful.
great post Deb, we all tend to be way too hard on ourselves and that traps us from moving on and truly fulfilling the destiny laid out for us. A BLIP IS JUST THAT, a blip….then we need to turn forward and go straight ahead again without hesitation…….:)
ty for asking and again, sure enjoy these posts
I appreciate your comment Tammy. In the greater scheme, yes “A blip is just that” and at the same time, repetition of similar blips is a message to take notice – assess – modify and learn. From their we continue on the path, doing the best we can at any given moment and growing every day.
Thanks for those thoughtful replies Michael and Dr. Tammy
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